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Why I Almost Skipped Celebrating a Big Win. And Why You Shouldn’t

 

Yesterday, I submitted my book proposal for “Am I Enough?” to the Hay House Writers’ Workshop contest. It was a milestone I’d been working toward for months. I had to step out of my comfort zone and keep going, even when I felt clueless, discouraged, or without inspiration. For me, a big win, a soulful YES that took courage, discipline, and heart.

 

 

You’d think I would’ve paused to celebrate, right?

 

Instead, I did what so many of us do.

I moved on.

 

Before the energy of the moment even landed in my body, my mind was already asking:

• What’s next?

• What else is on the to-do list?

• What didn’t I get done today?

 

This is the voice I know well. The voice of the “good girl” inside me.
The one addicted to proving, producing, and pushing through.
The one who believes celebration is only allowed after everything is perfect, and even then, it should be quiet, brief, and probably feel a little guilty.

 

 

But this time, I caught it. And I chose differently.

I paused.
I smiled.
I let the pride in.
I let the moment land.
I celebrated.

 

Not with fireworks or fanfare. But with presence. With joy. With softness.
I whispered to myself:
“This mattered. I matter. I achieved this… and I want more of it, because I can.”

 

Why We Skip the Celebration

I see this all the time with my clients, my friends, and especially with the high-functioning women I work with.

We accomplish meaningful things… projects, conversations, healing, surviving another hard day… and we skip right over them. On to the next task. The next problem. The next “improvement.”

 

Why? Because many of us were raised to believe our worth lives in what we do, not who we are.
We’re conditioned to keep producing.
To keep proving.
To keep going.

 

And when we don’t pause to celebrate, we reinforce that old belief:
It’s never enough. I’m never enough.

 

What If Celebration Is the Missing Link?

Celebration isn’t about showing off.
It’s not about waiting for the perfect win.
It’s not about proving anything to anyone else.

 

It’s about saying to yourself:
“This mattered. I showed up. I kept going. I’m proud of me.”

 

Celebration is how we honour the version of ourselves who didn’t give up.
It’s how we make joy safe.
It’s how we say: “I want more of this. I can have more of this.”

 

 

The “I Am Enough” Celebration Ritual

Not sure how to celebrate yourself?
Here’s a gentle ritual you can try to honour any win, big or small.

 

1. Set the space
Light a candle or incense. Play music that makes you feel expansive.
Wear something joyful, something that makes you feel like you.

 

2. Write it down
On a piece of paper, write what you’re celebrating:
“Today, I honoured myself by ____. I am proud. I am enough.”
Let your feelings pour through: relief, joy, gratitude, even disbelief.
It’s all valid.

 

3. Acknowledge your inner child
Close your eyes.
Picture the little version of you: the one who always tried to get it “right.”
Imagine offering them a gift: a flower crown, a golden pen, a high-five, or a warm hug.
Whisper:
“Look what we did. We showed up. We kept going. We are enough.”

 

4. Toast yourself
Pour a glass of something special: wine, tea, sparkling water, cacao... whatever feels good.
Raise it high and say out loud:
“To me, to this win, and to all that’s coming next.”

 

5. Anchor the moment
Keep your note somewhere sacred: inside your journal, under your pillow, in a keepsake box, or even beneath something symbolic (like a stone, ring, or photo).
Let it remind you:
You paused.
You celebrated.
You claimed it.

 

 

What Are You Celebrating Today?

You don’t need permission to feel proud.
You don’t need to wait until it’s all perfect.
Start now.

 

• Celebrate your effort.
• Celebrate your progress.
• Celebrate your presence.

 

You’re doing better than you think.

 

👇 Drop a comment and let me know: what are you celebrating this week?
Big or small. Loud or quiet. It all counts.
Let it land.

 

With much love...

Be here. Be wild. Be you. 🦋

       Myrto

 

P.S.

✨ Click here to learn more about my book:

“Am I Enough? – Go from No to Yes and Beyond”